Someone I Love Is Having Suicidal Thoughts: What to Do
Finding out someone you love is having suicidal thoughts is terrifying. You might feel helpless, scared, or unsure of what to say. This guide will help you support them effectively while taking care of yourself.
The Question You Need to Ask
"Are you thinking about ending your life?"
Ask directly. Use clear language. Don't dance around it.
Myth: Asking about suicide plants the idea in someone's head.
Truth: Research shows asking about suicide does NOT increase suicidal thoughts. In fact, it can reduce them by opening the door to help.
What to Say
✅ DO Say:
- "Thank you for telling me. That took courage."
- "I'm here. I'm not going anywhere."
- "Let's get you help right now."
❌ DON'T Say:
- "You have so much to live for."
- "Think about your family."
- "You're being selfish."
Immediate Safety Steps
If someone is having suicidal thoughts:
- Call 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
- Take them to the nearest emergency room
- Stay with them - don't leave them alone
- Remove access to means (pills, weapons, etc.)
Resources
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988
- Crisis Text Line: Text "HELLO" to 741741
- Emergency: Call 911 if immediate danger
This guide provides general information. Always consult with mental health professionals for specific situations.